Helping Julie with Tim
I'm so impressed at how the family have developed in their horsemanship. Longfields is such a learning zone; there is always something on the go. With Parelli being a main focus, we regularly hear the voices of Pat and Linda Parelli echoing through our house in DVD format, and of course reflected in the way that we think and speak!
Preparing for a hack with Kate on Cloud, and me on mum's pony, Teri
8 year old Kate has got a great new pony, called Cloud. It seems as if he'll be the perfect match for feisty and independent-minded Kate, who wants to do everything 'for herself.' Although lacking in confidence, Cloud is essentially a very Left Brained pony, so it will be interesting to see the partnership develop between Kate and Cloud. I've been helping Kate with him, partly because I couldn't keep my hands off the ropes, and partly because she needs some assistance. This week we worked on refining the Seven Games, softening Kate's phases (she tends to be a bit too quick, resulting in all her cues becoming hugely unsubtle), and getting Kate up and riding him. She was so pleased to have hacked him out at the beginning of the week, and finished the week with cantering him - both in a saddle on the bridleway, and bareback in the fields at home!
Long phase 1, quick 2,3,4
13 year old Julie is doing great work with both her ponies. JJ seems to have gone lame, and we're concerned that its an old leg injury affecting him, but the extra time has freed Julie to do more with Tim, and they are doing some fantastic work together. Timmy is extremely right brained, and being a right brainer herself, Julie has now got the maturity to understand Tim and give him exactly what he needs. In a recent session with the two of them, we played at extending the 7 games. We realized that the foundations are now in place to further challenge their relationship, so I set Julie some challenges, such as playing the games from behind Tim (zones 3, 4 and 5)
I've been rewatching the new Parelli Level 3 pack, and these are a couple of the things I've been picking up on:
- You’re either sensitizing or desensitizing your horse. Working with a pair like Kate and Cloud, I have become so aware of not assuming things. Both of them tend to be very busy, and will act on what you told them to do 20 mins ago, but of course the lesson plan may have changed by then! They can be deceptive, as their 'confidence and obedience' may look amazing, until you realize that you didn't actually ask them to do that task... when you correct this, the pony/child may not seem so confident anymore! Of course teaching assumptions is relative to sensitivity levels; if you're unintentionally teaching your horse to react - you're sensitizing him. But, say you don't follow through with a particular task, you teach the horse to disobey you - desensitizing. You want to find a 'sensitivity balance' where the horse respects you, and tunes into what *you* are asking them to do.
- You have to understand prey animal psychology. Safety, comfort, food and play (in that order) are highly important to prey animals. You must find where your horse is at; there is no point in offering a horse comfort when they are actually seeking safety, and vise versa.
- Some horses dignity is not intact because they’ve been put through force fear and intimidation. They only react, and never engage. They feel as if their dignity has been taken away. I love the way that dignity sums it all up. After all, how can we expect a horse to respect us, when the human race has never respected them? The start of a relationship with a horse, the place where they begin to engage, is when we hand them back their dignity. When we respect them. I find that recognizing the smallest things (as Pat says, the slightest try) is what makes all the difference... for instance, if the horse doesn't want to be touched, how about respecting that, and not touching him? But, if we're respecting them, there is an expectation that they respect us. They don't have to like us immediately, but they must respect us in turn.
- You can shoot a gun off any horse... once. Confidence is for life. Exposing a horse is the start of confidence. Stay away from right and wrong, just do the natural thing. Confidence does not necessarily equal sensitivity (response)